No Pain No Gain? 6

1620838_684104744979695_563745053_nBreathing rapidly, heart rate up, body sweaty, I navigate through my third mile deciding whether to continue. The “No Pain No Gain” sign centrally posted at the gym flashes in my mind.

The fitness motto is meant to inspire working at higher intensities to make more of an impact on overall fitness.

The sign is there to urge the exerciser on when the going gets tough and resistance sets in.

Interestingly, we find versions of the same motto, coined in 1982 by Jane Fonda’s workout videos, traced back to the beginning of the second century, in The Ethics of the Fathers. Rabbi Ben Hei says, “According to me, the pain is the gain.”

He deciphers the meaning around necessary pain in obeying God for spiritual gain. Robert Herrick, a poet in the 17th century, wrote:

No Pains, No Gains

If little labour, little are our gains:

Man’s fate is according to his pains. — Hesperides 1650

Benjamin Franklin, in reference to the adage, “God helps those who help themselves,” declared,  “… there are no gains, without pains.”  People from all walks of life employ this axiom to push themselves when they want to stop, knowing success and peak performance means going beyond resistance.


The axiom is beneficial in assisting us in reaching a higher potential, albeit, in our spiritual adventure there is no gain through pain unless we have the ability to perceive all of life’s experiences as opportunities to grow, learn about ourselves, and transform.

When we feel pain, hurt, anger, a possible re-action to a perceived judgment, slight, blame, or difference of opinion, often accompanied by intense emotions, our victim is often in play. The key to whether we respond or react is all about Perspective, how we interpret the experiences, emotions, occurrences before us.

“The best indicator of your level of consciousness is how you deal with life’s challenges when they come. Through those challenges, an already unconscious person tends to become more deeply unconscious, and a conscious person more conscious. You can use a challenge to awaken you, or you can allow it to pull you into even deeper sleep.”  – Eckhart Tolle

There are four universal archetypes within the collective unconscious of humanity. There are many more, the four universal each individual must deal with are: the child, the victim, the saboteur and the prostitute.

A basic shadow voice of the four are: the child – I need you, want to remain dependent, and am not ready for self responsibility. The victim – whoah is me…look at what everyone and life constantly does to me. The saboteur – I am not worthy, I am scared of sharing my gifts, what will people want from me or how will my life change with success?  I am comfortable in my familiar small world…


The prostitute – I will do whatever is expected of me instead of seeking to be my authentic self. Your shadow is that part of yourself you are not in touch with, it is part of the psyche in the subconscious realm.

Though our basic human nature is to feel injured, wounded or judge the situation as pathological, a different perspective shifts and transforms life’s challenges.

The possibility of purely observing the challenge without judgment, seeing beyond duality, right and wrong, good and bad, allows the possibility to see them as life changing opportunities.

If we can unlearn what we have been taught, not attach to our instinctual shadow feelings, unresolved emotional wounds, not engage in the drama someone is sucking us into, we may reframe the discomfort we are in as signs of transformation, a space of awakening.


Remember, when we point outside of ourselves, placing the focus and blame towards the energy in front of us, three fingers are pointing back at us.  The truth formula is 20% is what happens to us, 80% is how we deal with the experience. The information and lesson is always about the beholder.

Everything and everyone we experience is a mirror of our perceptions, belief patterns, and subconscious.  Aristotle proclaimed, “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”  I assert, it is an aware mindful consciousness whom has the ability to observe a thought without identifying with it.

Life is a loyal messenger offering information about who we are, where we are in awareness, a priceless offering of truth every minute of everyday. It is up to us to lean towards fear, which is always about loss, lack or not getting our needs met, or lean forward in your heart, where LOVE, support, abundance and wonder reside.

Love is a state of consciousness, we are either in it or out of it. Our mind and body are the maps and catalysts in understanding where our awareness is or how energy is spent in any given moment.

Our body readily and steadily shares information through our biology, physiology, psyche about when we are off balance and not in harmony with our authentic self, heart center, and are out of congruency.

Our intuitive mind and body are the frequency of LOVE and let us know when we are out of our core, our center.

As Einstein postured, “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.

The mind is a gift created to serve the heart in love, our body is the home of our soul and spirit awaiting the transformation of each cell to be filled with light.

May we listen to the inner voice, the voice of the heart. In this rapidly evolving time, where we are invited to expand and live in the energy of light and love, remember, each circumstance at a time, all is given to us in the unfoldment of self-knowledge, our authentic human, spiritual and divine Self. It is the marriage of the body and the Divine.

Commit to love no matter the situation.

To transforming your pain to gain,


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